Have been chatting with people for potential connections on upcoming trip. We prefer to play and connect with people outside our city right now.
Most people don't care that we are from out of town. One couple, who we were vibing with, completley back out of our plans once they found out we weren't locals. I know it's possible they just changed their mind and it could be an excuse but it genuinely seemed that was the only reason, that we were from out of town. Their posts never did state they were only interested in locals.
Should we be immediately up front about being from out of town? Do others prefer to play only with others local to them?
This is exactly what they said. It was all good, and we weren't offended as they were very polite. I'm just curious how common it is that people only play this way.
Probably 50% of the people we have played with are from out of town. Our city is a tourist destination, so we get lots of out of state inquiries. So it's not a problem for us. But we do know people who would not want to play with out of town couples, becaue they want something more regular.
Makes sense. We've been "rushed" before, and it's frustrating.
Haha. I wondered this too. It didn't seem very swingerly to have this requisite. Sounds more like to me they were looking for regular FWBs.
We prefer meeting first too and were upfront about being in town for a couple of days.
Swinging literally is all about regular fwb
I'm not an expert, but I do think not everyone would agree with your definition.
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They said it was because they wanted to invest only in people whom they could meet regularly rather than once every couple of months (we visit this area a couple of times a year).
But your flaking comment makes some sense, too. I can see how people not local to an area would be more likely to do that.