I (M54) really like sexting and writing erotica. My wife (F55) has recently discovered that she really enjoys reading the sexts. We both have discovered that having sexy chats with other couples can also be highly stimulating provided that they have the emotional and intellectual skills to engage.

The thing is that most of the Swingers sites are about showing off skin and jumping into the sack relatively quickly. We’d rather match up minds, take our time, and then jump into the sack with another couple if, and only if, there is sufficient mental and emotional connection.

My question is how you go about meeting people who want to play online but aren’t just chomping at the bit to be in person? I’ve found many sexting partners for one on one stuff, but group play is its own separate thing.

Are there any swingers sites, subreddits or services that specialize in virtual connections? I’ve looked and what I have found this far (other than Feeld’s “virtual location”) is all centered on in person as soon as possible.

Thanks in advance.