Banging my head against a wall and I haven’t even touched the other husband.
We started this with our best friends a year ago - had a major falling out last summer and have come back from it; but the amount of drama, anxiety, and stress this little situation has caused is not WORTH IT.
Just don’t do it. Please. We have tried and failed and tried and failed and tried and are continuing to fail. We take three steps forward and two steps back. In comparison it is so much easier for us to connect with, flirt with, and pursue other couples who are levelheaded and stable, already established in the lifestyle than have to worry about not hurting our best friends feelings, or worrying that we might say something wrong and jeopardize everything. Too much sleep has been lost, too much has been misunderstood, too many feelings have been hurt. SO OVER IT
*Needed a place to vent.
Best thing that's ever happened with us and our friends. Made our relationship sob much stronger.
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It's obvious to some, but definitely not all. Communication is paramount. You and your spouse is the most important first and foremost but between couple and couple needs to be addressed also. We have a group chat with all 4 of us that we use daily to talk about anything and everything under the sun from sexting to talking about how are kids fucked up again lmao. But it definitely helps because it gives everyone a voice and holds them accountable to what they say. Good Luck!!