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Not new to LS but new to being a unicorn. Iâm super friendly and outgoing. I make it clear Iâm not looking for poly and Iâm not trying to poach your man. Met up with one couple after messaging the husband all week. The day after he is blowing me up all day then her and I texted a little then crickets. He has been making excuses. Texted with another husband said his wife was excited to meet me. Went to a meet and great she was icy and cold towards me. He messaged me for a few days after. I told him I didnât think his wife likes me. He said âthey havenât had a chance to talk about itâ yeah ok dude you want to bang me she either doesnât like me or doesnât like LS. I donât know the rules how should a unicorn act? Iâve met a third couple had fun keep texting the wife only as she is cool as hell and that seems to be going well. I just want to make some friends and have some sex. Give me tips and pointers. Canât stand the single guys they are just assholes towards me like they are doing me a favor.
That tracks. Iâm sure your intuition goes a long way in making that determination! No one bats 1.000 but if youâre anything like me, as soon as doubt starts to creep in, youâre out. Better safe than sorry, especially as a unicorn.
Have a good one!
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Respectfully, that rule might eliminate some otherwise very fun couples! As the male half, I do about 99% of the vetting of couples/singles before getting my wife involved. Once we get to that point, sheâs engaging and happy to be a part of the conversation.
I VERY much realize that there are plenty of men trying to unknowingly coerce their wives into a threesome, so I totally understand your rule. But once we get beyond an initial attraction, I really try to find out if your personality and values are going to align with ours before I add my wife. Five messages usually isnât enough for me to make that determination, but a week is inappropriate. Shouldnât take more than a day IMO.
At the end of the day itâs your rule and your choice!