Met a couple at a club. We really hit it off. My husband and I really enjoyed this couples company as well. Really matched vibes etc. We did not play that night because the guy ends up drinking too much. My husband and I don’t drink, so we were well aware of the fact that the other half of the couple was past consent.

We exchanged numbers, made a group chat the next day. Spent like three weeks chatting back and forth. We were going to meet earlier but we had unforeseen weather in our area. So we couldn’t leave the house.

We finally plan to meety. We get to their house. We get naked in their hot tub. We are all laughing, vibing, making jokes. We move our bodies to the living room. Smoke some pot. The Woman half of this couple proceeds to lead me into the bedroom to show me something. Then she says she wants to discuss what we are comfortable with and what we are open to, we said we are very comfortable and are very open. The guys follow in the bedroom. We all talked about what we are comfortable with, boundaries, protection etc. we all were in agreement.

The woman and I start to play with each other. Then we swap partners. I’m playing with the dude and she is playing with my husband. All going good. The dude I’m with is having a hard time getting there, so I’m trying my best to make sure he’s having a good time, meanwhile stroking this other woman while my husband pounds her out. She seemed like she was having a good time. Then did and I started making out, not having sex yet because he’s still having trouble.

All of a sudden, the woman gets up and says, this is too fast and she needs a break. We immediately stop and try to console with her. Assuring her that we are in this together and what can we do to make this a better experience. She said she was not comfortable with Dude “making love”. (Now Mind you, I don’t make love to anyone other than my husband, I fuck.)

She then wanted to cuddle with me. I said ok. Then I said why don’t we just go back to the hot tub. This woman is clearly not ready for this. I’m not going to continue this when they are just not ready. So we hang out in hot tub like normal friends, we leave.

I’d like to add that they are a 9 months new couple. We generally don’t fuck new couples because of this But they were previously in the lifestyle before they got together. So we didn’t take that as a red flag.

But this is eating me up. My husband and I are people pleasers and the fact that we did not provide a good experience and this woman is now put off from this because of us. What should have we done differently? Did we do the right thing? Has this happened to anyone else?