Hey all so a little backstory, I’ve been with my fiancée for the last almost 9 years and we have a 7 year old together. Her and I have been swinging for the last 6 years on and off. It originally was a discussion about threesomes but we dove in and decided to do full swaps with couples and attend swinger clubs. Over the years we have attended swinger clubs have had good and bad experiences with couples but we have learned over time. For us we really enjoy meeting amazing people learning about their experiences and living life. We developed a dom and service sub/bratty sub relationship as well as my job I’m simply a number as a blue collar warehouse worker. In the last couple months we met a couple enjoyed chats over what’s app and then finally met 2 times for coffee. My fiancée she has built a great friendship with the male half of the couple which I’m fine with as having friends is important. His wife and I had a decent thing going as well but not on the level they had. We played with them once and it was a fun night. Then we as a group allowed my fiancée and him to meet up and have fun 1 on 1 I guess the term could be ethical non monogamy. Now here is where it gets tricky when they played on a split second decision condoms were not used. My fiancée told me right away and while I didn’t snap I did say I was very disappointed as safety is important. Now to new years went to their place hung out with vanilla people drank ate and after everyone else left we played with them. Here is the tricky part her and him have huge sex drives while his wife and I generally don’t. We all used condoms that night however at one point her and him were going at it for 45 mins after me and his wife stopped for some reason I got upset out of no where as at that point I’ve been up for almost 24 hours it was 5am. Her and I went home and made a pact to have a 2 drink limit going forward. Because of my outburst between the alcohol being exhausted and maybe jealous they were still going at it nearly an hour after I was done who knows. It made everything awkward we all met talked and I basically got my head taken off for being over the top. While the group potentially wants to get back on solid ground idk how to feel. Also my fiancée has told me she wants to play with him one on one again but idk if I’m ENM between my hard job being a parent I almost never make time for myself . I’m no longer feeling a connection to this guys wife and I understand my fiancée has built a great friendship which I understand idk where to go from here. I’m afraid rules are gonna get broken again and I no longer feel attached to the group. I understand she has desires to explore in the LS but idk what to do. Any advice would be great