My wife and I have been in the LS for only a few months and had a few parallel play situations with touching and she is BI and there have been a couple of ff situations, but never another man in play. This weekend, we are at a local LS club, and we are having a blast. Light play with a another female, then another couple played next to us as well. Towards closer to the end of the night we meet a couple that we both like and seem to get along with. We explain that we have yet to have a full swap, but we are open to it if we find the right couple. After some chit chat, we decide to go to a room and play together. After talking about our rules, he asks her if he can go down on her, which I'm perfectly fine with, seeing as how I was making out with his wife. Within less than a minute, he is suddenly finger banging the shit out of her, making the bed rock, I guess trying to make her squirt and she is enjoying it while being very loud with her moans ECT. I am not even hard yet from kissing his wife, and now I am suddenly having a hard time... getting hard. I guess my question is ... Is it normal to go balls to the wall so fast in an interaction? I have eaten a lot of pussy, and I don't usually start with heavy finger fucking right out the gate. Especially when he knew this was our first full experience, was he trying to sabotage me. Or am I just overthinking things, which I do tend to do