My partner and I (in the LS for about 3 years) met a couple for dinner a few weeks ago and we decided to meet up for some fun last weekend. Before we met up they specified that they wanted to do soft swap for the first meet up. We had no issues and it was a go!

Well, it seems like they had a different idea of what soft swap was than we do. It was awkward and fairly unsatisfying for my partner and me. Nothing "bad" happened, but definitely not what we expected.

So, what's your definition of soft swap? Obv next time we're with people who have that as a boundary we'll ask more questions, but I kinda want to see if we're off from the general consensus.