This is a general question for anyone that plays with couples. Do you care if the other couple is married/in relationship or just friends (fwb)? Does this effect your decision when searching for couples?
My husband (M34) and myself (M34) have been swinging since 2020. We have opened up to solo play last June. Since, I have found a regular fwb (M32) that I would like to involve in group play with me. This would include MFM, FFM and MFMF. He doesn’t have experience in group play yet.
Are we going to have a difficult time finding couples as a fwb couple? Will it come off as red flag that we aren’t romantically involved? Especially when it comes to group play? Would it just be better to hit up a swingers club or event, instead of online?
Any feedback is welcomed!
I think we will definitely have to hit a club, and see how the vibe is. Unfortunately we are looking for regular play partners, we aren’t into one night stands.
Lucky you! Who knows maybe you just jinxed yourself now 😅.
I could explain the context of the fights/drama these couples had, but I’m not here to air their dirty laundry. We have obviously met solid couples. But have also met just as many unstable couples.
Glad to hear your experience hasn’t had drama.
We have encounter several of the “let’s try spicing up our failing marriage with swinging!” And it was nothing but headaches and drama.
Thank you for your feedback! That’s where I’m at, it doesn’t matter to me as long as no one is cheating and being dishonest. I think we may need to check out a club then.
For clarification he’s just my friend with benefits, not boyfriend 😓. No romantic connection what so ever. We just like to fuck lol.
My husband and I no longer play with poly folks. We had a very bad experience with a single poly female.
We want a couple that is just as infatuated with their relationship as we are with ours'.
I think it would be extremely unlikely for us to be fine with a FWB couple.
My wife and I have an amazing relationship. What we enjoy about swinging is our amazing relationship becoming intertwined with another couples' amazing relationship.
After 20 years together my wife and I are still irrationally infatuated and in love with each other. We get turned on by finding other amazing relationships.
We wouldn''t have the slightest interest in playing with someone who isn't with their partner but their FWB.
Generally 😅. Roughly 50% of the time we have met a married/ romantically committed couples, drama has ensued.
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I’m getting that vibe for sure 😅. Just wanted to see what the general consensus was.
Really didn’t think being in a romantic relationship was a requirement for swinging. Seems like it is for many people in this subreddit. But hey, to each their own. Everyone is allowed to have boundaries ☺️.