My wife and I were talking about LS stuff and the topic of my porn addiction came back up.. it was a lifelong thing that caused me to barely have intimacy with her early in our marriage and almost culminated in a separation/divorce for us..

For me, I realized that porn was residing my brain and desensitizing me to actual sex.. I had way to much stimulation, and it caused me to suffer from ED and general lack of desire for my wife.

We went through counseling and eventually healed our marriage.. accountability software was installed, I leaned on some friends for support and eventually kicked the habit!

Recently, we’ve been talking about sexual fantasies and I brought up hotwifing and swinging. Her reaction was surprise, but not a visceral negative reaction like what happened when she found my porn collection. She said it will likely never actually happen, but she’s all in for role play and dirty talk. There’s a very slim chance that anything will ever manifest one day, but our conversations took an interesting turn.

She still thinks porn is terrible, and doesn’t want me to watch it. Which is not really a problem for me.. so I’m curious..

Is this a dynamic that anyone in the LS shares? Does the more limited sexual experience of swinging satiate your desire for variety without burning you out the way porn does? Do you and your partner have a “no porn” policy in your ENM marriage?