Hey Reddit so I need some thoughts on my situation. My husband and I are newly swingers, have been to a club a few times and we love it. Outside of the club, I'm freely allowed to have sex with anyone I want as long as he is aware of it and I come home with some video or recording for us to watch/listen to when I get home. Recently there's only been one guy that is my go-to for this, let's call him Ryan. Ryan and I briefly dated 3 years before my current relationship, which I'm the one who ended it. He's always been around solely for sex, I would never date him as I think he's unfit for me but we are mutually each others best sex. My husband tells me to go have sex with him, it is never my idea due to the fact that when I come home after with a video, he gets mad because you can tell i'm almost into it too much. Our video made him uncomfortable and turned off. I stopped seeing Ryan. 2-3 months later, my husband tells me I should go see him again. So i did because i do crave his sex but it's truly just sex. Our agreement was for me to come home specifically with a video of Ryan giving me a facial. Things didn't go to plan, I end up coming home with no video or recordings. When I came home to my husband he began arguing with me that I didn't do anything that he had asked me to do and that I should go date him again. Since this is how we began the night, during sex with my husband I didn't bring up anything regarding my session with Ryan solely because I didn't want to ruin our night seeing how upset he already was. 3 days later, my husband wants a divorce and says that i'm shady, that I only went there for myself and I have now cheated. On his end, i went and had sex with someone and then came home like nothing happened nor discussed what happened, he thinks It's because i want to hide it. On my side, i didn't want to bring it up truly because i felt like it would lead to an argument and didn't want to ruin the night. Never did I see this coming.

Thank you for reading, let me know what we should do. My husband is my everything.