Hi Everyone,
Not new to the lifestyle but we have found that most of the time we will meet a couple the women are attractive and look after themselves and their appearance and the men are over weight and not really all that attractive.
My SO is frustrated by this as well as he wants us both to be able to be turned on and attracted by both people in a couple.
How do you deal with this challenge?
(My SO and I are both in good shape, exercise, not overweight and look after ourselves and our appearance)
In our instance I found it easier to find beauty/attractive qualities in the female halves of most couples, so over time I tended to focus on focusing on the men to try to predict what our female half might be into.
I was still wrong sometimes (it turns out I'm not as good as I thought at vetting for her) but sticking to certain 'types' definitely increased likelihood she'd have sexual interest.
It is noteworthy that on the flipside I did notice that some of the VGL males seemed to have more 'average' female halves, so the mismatches went both ways.
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