When I was married my ex and I were in the LS for nearly 5 years, so I have a lot of experience. My current GF has none, but we have experienced watching and being watched, which she throughly enjoyed. She is open to trying soft swap but it not feeling ready for full swap. Even then, I don't want to pressure her for that. I want her to just be ready when she is ready (if ever). But she is interested in trying.

I'm thinking the best environment is a low pressure party, as opposed to meeting another couple. My thinking is that she can just see how things work, how people interact, and not end up disappointing anyone if we don't participate with others (as opposed to just ourselves). But looking around, I don't see much. The few parties I have seen make clear they are for DTF people and I don't want to put her in anything like a high pressure situation.

So I would appreciate suggestions for low pressure situations, clubs, parties, whatever, even if its several hours drive (like Charlotte, NC, Columbia SC and so on). In fact, distance would be good. If someone has an idea on non-party low pressure situations, I'm all ears. Thanks everyone!