I’ll try to make this short and sweet. My wife and I have been in the lifestyle over a year. We’ve experienced quite a bit of different experiences and scenarios. That being said finding another couple that we were/ are attracted to seems to be next to impossible (for us anyway). A few months ago we decided to try out solo play (same roof). I play separately, she plays separately not with couples- just whoever we choose. I, the husband went first. I found this attractive female. We talked on and off over DMs for almost 2 months before we had our fun. I’m not going to lie, I had lots of fun that night. After that night our communication had to slow down. My wife seemed to be bothered/insecure about it. I significantly slowed down the communication with my play partner afterwards. Probably to the point that playing with her again might not happen or will require some more work re-establishing of the interest. Recently, my wife played solo for her first time. She really enjoyed her experience as well. I’m okay with that. It’s what we agreed we would do. My area of concern is that the communication has increased quite a bit between them since the experience (DM and I look at the messages whenever I want). My question for other guys in this scenario is how much communication afterwards is acceptable? She would like to play with him again. My wife is respectful with my requests about limits on their communication. How much is acceptable before it would bother you? 3 days out of a week? 5 days? Should there be limits?