Hello all

We are a married late 40’s M/F couple and this is the M half writing. We are newish and have been in the LS about a year. We’ve been to the clubs a few times and did soft swap in the play areas. We have done MFM and FMF threesomes which have both been fun but we had never done a foursome soft swap. The wife is bisexual and I am straight.

We met a couple via an app and we all seemed to get along well. We met for drinks and there seemed to be mutual attraction so we saw them again and agreed to another date for some soft swap. The other couple had more experience but said they were fine with soft swap. Both females in each couple are bisexual and seemed attracted to each other.

Date goes well and we all got along and ended up back at their room for some soft swap play. We played a game they brought that had some built in little dares where you basically picked who you could involve. It was fun but I got the feeling they were both only were only interested in my wife. I was a little taken aback cuz I felt like I was useless in the situation but I ignored my feelings and pushed through. Soft swap starts and they are both all over my wife on one bed while I sat alone on the other bed. I get up and join them and start touching the other wife while she is going down on my wife while other hubby is kissing my wife. We change positions a few times and I get the feeling again like I’m the odd person out. Again I ignore it and push through. I notice the other male doesnt seem at all interested in his own wife but is all over my wife and of course the girls are bisexual so they are into each other. We play for about an hour and switch positions several times but each time they both play with my wife’s mouth and pussy and I am left trying to stay involved as best I can. Every time the other wife goes down on my wife the other wife lies on her stomach while my wife is on her back so there wasn’t much I could do except finger the other wife. The whole time we played I never kissed or ate my wife’s pussy cuz they were all over her and I didn’t want to like force my way in. At one point the three of them are playing on one bed and I’m sitting alone on the other bed. Finally I get up to go to the bathroom while the 3 of them play. I come back and I tell them ok guys this isn’t working for me. They are all shocked like what’s wrong we’re having so much fun. We stop and start getting dressed and saying our goodbyes we agree to meet up again.

Is this normal for foursomes? My wife thinks it’s all in my head and it was a normal four way soft swap? It didn’t feel like jealousy I just felt like I wasn’t really needed in the situation. Is this a case of needing to put on my big boy pants and just get over it or were my feeling valid?

Thanks.