Why is it SO expected for women to be bi in the LS? Like men aren't expected to be bi. (Sure, YOU may not be like this, but please don't pretend this isn't the reality of the LS).
Imagine a dude tells a woman that he's straight and in return she says "oh, you say that now, just wait, my husband will convert you, it's just what he does".
It's just as inappropriate and predatory when you're talking to women. 😔
You’re talking to the wrong people if anyone EXPECTS you to do anything… my wife is bi, so we seek out other couples with bi female halves. If someone considers themselves bicurious, a lot of times they just need the encouragement from the other woman to take that step!
But if a woman says she’s straight, we’re not going to try to change her mind. We just acknowledge that they aren’t a good match for us, wish them well and move on.
I don’t, it’s not something we’re into. But if someone asked me I wouldn’t be offended. I’d just say no and expect that to be the end of it.
And the only reason I ask people who reach out to us a that it’s blatantly stated in our profile. We don’t reach out to others who list the women as straight, if that makes sense. We know it’s not a match.
Not a bad idea. I might try that. Thanks for the call out.
Thanks for the kind words. Really appreciate it. I’m probably just going to remove it from my profile and let the cards fall where they may.
No doubt. Communication is so easy if you just do it!
In our experience, especially online, if a couple reaches out to us that appears to be straight we will ask if bi-play between the women is off the table. We’ve actually had mixed results in our answers! Some people evolved into that kind of pay but never changed their profile info. But we’re never pushy if the answer is no.
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I’m bi and it’s on my profiles but I’m considering removing it. My personal experience has been that couples think that because I’m bi that I’m not going to respect boundaries and IDK like sexually assault the dude. Being bi doesn’t mean you can’t have a conversation and respect boundaries but that’s how bi males seem to be treated. I’ve even had this happen when the couple is looking for play that will absolutely result in guys having pretty intimate contact. It’s weird.