I am 45. Wife is 43. Live in Texas. Married 23 years. We have been to topless shows in Vegas a couple of times. I joined sdc with her permission last year and we were both briefly on kik. We read swinger stories online to each other and it is definitely part of our sexy discourse. When chatting with another couple we told them we just wanted to flirt online and maybe video chat. We had a fun connection with them and then he started pushing hard for us all to meet in person. That scared us a bunch and we both deleted kik and I shut down sdc. It is still part of our regular conversation. We come from very religious backgrounds and are still churchgoers. Being in same room with other couples sounds fun, sharing does to, but seems to cross a line for us. Wrestling through it all has been a struggle. We are ok attractive. Not fat, not fit. Thoughts?