Hi friends. my girlfriend and I are considering the lifestyle for real after much, much conversation and expectation setting. we have read all the advice and talked personally about what it means to share each other with other people. I am a fairly experienced guy with previous partners. she has only ever been with me.

However, the only part of that previous paragraph that matters is the fact she’s only been with me. I am about 6.5 inches and on the skinnier side in terms of girth, but I haven’t really compared myself much as I’ve never seen it as a problem.

She is delicate. At 6.5 I feel her IUD strings with ease, so I know that is basically her limit unless you really were trying to stretch her. Often times, we have very slow sex as her body is extremely sensitive. we’ve been using a vibrator to help ease things but typically she will feel pain and briefly stop us a few times during intercourse (this happens essentially every time we have sex and is typically not a big deal). Every now and then, the pain will force us to stop all together.

Here’s my question: How can we improve these hiccups to help us when it comes to trying the lifestyle?

I know it’s only a matter of time before she is mounted by a larger man. But I can’t possibly imagine her taking that comfortably. I watch video after video of bulls and unicorns and even the 60 year olds are clapping cheeks like they’re trying to earn a hip replacement. Everyone is so ROUGH. Yes, we know we can vocalize that we aren’t capable of rough for now, but the fact is that if you’re not swinging rough or powerful the. what’s the point? we WANT rough. I want to be able to help her and allow her to enjoy herself with another person, but I truly don’t believe it’s possible. I’ve suggested dildos to help her get use to the size but she can’t get comfortable with the feeling of plastic inside her (she likes real cock). also, yes she is aware that

What should we do?