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The double standard with messaging
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How many profiles out there say stuff like ā€œdonā€™t match if you arenā€™t going to message usā€ yet they donā€™t extend the same courtesy. Another favorite ā€œdonā€™t match and leave us on seen/readā€¦we have busy lives so if we donā€™t respond for a while donā€™t take it personal.ā€ As if we arenā€™t all busy lol.

Usually these profiles come with a statement about not wasting their time. No oneā€™s time is wasted by matching and not responding right away or by not responding to a message promptly.

For us that attitude is a turn off. Tells me they want to be chased and donā€™t want to do any chasing. More likely weā€™ll spend energy trying to set something up and then theyā€™ll take their best option which may not be us. Feel like most of these profiles are people who think very highly of themselves and canā€™t be bothered with pursuing anyone.

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In my experience, profiles that demand certain things I'm a very forward way are created by people who lack (or don't lack) that very thing.

"NO TIME FOR DRAMA" - Dramatic person, probably

"Must have excellent conversational skills" - Person who gives one-word replies, probably

...etc

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