We went to our local swingers club for couple night. There was a couple that approached us. I found the female attractive (I am bi) so I was open to the conversation for possible female play while the men watched. Their personalities aligned with ours which was great. The turn off for me was when the guy pulled his wife’s shirt down and was like here play with her boobs. Again, I am bi and I love boobs but it caught me off guard that he was inviting us to play with the wife and she wasn’t. I played it off and wanted to ensure she was okay with that. As we continued to talk he continued to pull his wife’s shirt down, then was literally pushing her towards us saying “go ahead feel her up.” He also pulled her dress up to show that she wasn’t wearing underwear.

I will admit that I allowed the encounter to go longer than I wanted considering that I was uncomfortable with his aggression towards his wife. I eventually grew the courage to tell him that I found it to be a turn off. He got mad and made it seem like he wasn’t into me.

As my husband and I talked about the encounter, he explained that he didn’t see anything wrong with the dudes behavior because that was the dynamic of their relationship and it had nothing to do with us. My husband has always been supportive and explained that I should have let him know I was uncomfortable and we would have left.

I am wondering if I am overthinking the whole situation as far as the other couples dynamic? I was worried if he was like that with his wife what would stop him from being like that with me in a room together. It’s been a while since we played and I need some insight. TIA ❤️