Next weekend, I (40F, bi) am throwing an all-bi orgy for my fiancé (43M, bi) at our apartment.

The RSVPs consist of 8 like-minded friends that we know quite well (though some of these friends will be meeting for the first time) and there’s an even split of sexes (I’m bigender but AFAB).

We’ve let everyone know what to expect and have ample supplies on hand (refreshments, towels, variety of condoms and lubes, towels, wipes, toys, separate play and chill spaces, comfy mattresses and seating, great lighting and playlist), but since this is our first time hosting, I’d love some tips for ice breakers, possible considerations beyond reiterating consent rules(no texting?), and how to navigate being both host and participant (beyond not allowing any entries after a certain time).

I realize that participating while hosting is usually a no-go, but we know and trust all everyone in attendance and my style of participating usually means I end up watching more than anything because I’m in my stag era.

Of note, although this is our first time hosting, we’ve attended orgies and are very comfortable/familiar with group sex settings.