My wife and I are inexperienced, and considering a vacation trip to a swinger friendly resort, but we really have no idea 'how it works'. I searched the sub, and I didn't see definitive answers for my questions and we don't know anyone IRL to ask...

Is there really a decent cross-section of body types?

Does everyone shave/wax, or is a bush OK (LOL)?

Is there a common word that is used for 'hooking up' that isn't considered rude or crass?

Is it OK, to just chill and watch (in common spaces)?

Is it assumed that if you start fooling around in a common area that you want to be watched, or do people look away?

I read about specific tours for people over 45 - are these common (and good)?

We're very inexperienced, which you can prob tell from the questions, but generally my wife is interested in making new friends and I like to watch her with her new friends. While I am attracted to women, I'm not into having casual sex with them. Essentially a 'hotwife' situation - is this common / acceptable at resorts?

edit: If this is the wrong place for this kind of thing, I will be happy to delete.

TIA for ANY help :)