Is it still swinging if I (the wife) switch into voyeur mode? 5 years in Lifestyle, and we don't play separately(not an option). I'm not motivated or turned on being the center of attention as much anymore, and I'm kind of over (Me) fucking and being fucked by other people as much. I don't want to stop 'swinging' technically, because Hubby puts so much time, effort and energy into it and enjoys others so much. It's my personal conundrum (because I know he likes watching me) but it just doesn't hold as much fun or excitement for me as much anymore (with me)performing with other people as it has in the past. Hubby has said before that we could just stop, but that doesn't seem fair to him...So I'm hoping that we can switch gears and that I can move to voyeur and he will choose to move into the 'center of attention' position. Respect is a big point with us in swinging, so there is no cuck vibe - I would just be enjoying watching and cheering Hubby on while he is fucking and/or being fucked by other people, (and if he has the energy,) reclaiming him after everyone else is gone. Thanks in advance for your input and/or sharing your experience(s)/example(s).