I am trying to see if anyone has run into this situation before. My wife and I have been in the lifestyle for about 4 years now and love it!! We met a really nice couple 2 years ago that we are very attracted too. They are also attracted to us and we have a great time in both lifestyle and vanilla situations. We also have kids around the same ages and they get along great and have even vacationed at the same time together.
The issue is me and the female half Nikki have ridiculous sexual chemistry. Our sessions are very fun and energetic leaving both of us satisfied. My wife and Mark don’t have the same level of connection. While she is attracted to him he is a little smaller around 3-1/2” and has a trouble achieving erections or staying hard due to an old injury. He will go down on her to help get her off but he rarely finishes without jerking himself off. My wife and Mark both have said they don’t mind the difference in play levels but it is a huge difference in satisfaction and I kind of feel bad about it. There has been times where my wife or Mark will opt out of play but encourage Nikki and myself to enjoy each other. Both of us couples have done hotwife type play or watched their partners play with another without issue, i just don’t want resentment to build. Again we have an awesome time together even in social situations, maybe I am just overthinking it?
Thank you my wife and I enjoy each other very much still as well.
I have talked to my wife about this, I was wondering if anyone else ever ran into a situation like this. We aren’t keeping secrets and my wife and I talk about everything. The dynamic of the friendship has not changed either and again they encourage us to keep up play. I was just looking for anyone who might have been in this type of situation on how it played out.
Thank you, like I said me and her just have such amazing sex together. Our spouses for now do seem good with it.
Thank you so much, I feel like we may be getting to a spot like that where he may not be able to stay aroused and this is a safe and comfortable way for Nikki to get pleasure without any danger to the relationship. My wife and I don’t want to change our situation and neither do they.
My wife has joined me and Nikki and enjoyed it, we tried a mfm and tried to include Mark as much as possible but he enjoyed seeing her take me more while pleasuring himself. We tried group play but he wasn’t able to get hard for that, even with both women trying to suck him.
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Thank you, we have other single male play partners and she has a good time with them. I guess i am just overthinking, it’s not really any different than that.