If I were to ask advice for how to meet a nurse to marry, people would say get a job at a hospital. If I wanted to climb Mt Everest and I never climbed anyting higher than a curb, people would tell me to join a Mountain climbing group and start by only going up a mountain a little at a time. But mention swinging and everybody freaks. Don't try, you are too old/young, ugly, your feet stink, you wear the wrong color socks, you are too tall/short, you are too fat/skinny, you part your hair on the wrong side, you have a cat. Just crawl into the corner and die loser, nobody likes you. Swinging is the only thing in life you can't make happen. Apparently, You just have to sit in a park feeding squirrels until a woman falls into your lap and says " marry me and take me to a lifestyle club". A single man can become a doctor or a lawyer , but if he wants to be a swinger he has to get married and hope in 20 years she will want to be a swinger. If not, I guess he divorces and tries again. Single vanilla women will marry but single women in the lifestle never marry. A divorced woman who enjoys the lifestyle is not allowed to date or marry another man and bring him into the lifestyle. She must change her name and join a convent. I do not get it. This lifestyle is the only thing in life that you can not work at and make happen. You have to wait for it to happen by accident, or you will not be accepted.