I'm a SM. Everybody hates us, I would love to be part of a couple. But I can not figure out where everybody meets these women that are into the lifestyle. I would love to take a date to a club and see if we get along. Just like any other date. Every woman I meet in vanilla dating is not interested in swinging. Every long term relationship I had was not interested in swinging. Now I go to clubs hoping to meet a SF. The club I go to, everybody gets a wristband to identify what you are or are not looking for. The socializing area is in the middle between play areas and entrance and food. So everybody passes through the socializing area. Unless it is my imagination, the SF do not stop in the socializing area. They go to and stay in the couples play area. So, do you SF have any advice for where I can meet a SF for a relationship? I just want to meet and talk and see how it goes. Just like vanilla dating.