We are swingers along with being open to other scenarios (hot wife, mfm, ffm etc.)This wasn’t the particular swinging scenario that prompted me to ask this, as this particular time it was just me and my wife with 2 other women at an air bnb at a really cool house in the mountains. Hot tub, fire pit, etc… just a fun getaway.

So anyway one of the other girls was super hot, about 10 years younger than us (mid 20s), and knew about our lifestyle (sort of anyway) and so once drinks got going and the hot tub got put to use it became obvious that she wanted it. We talked about it, she was really into it, and then we waited to long because the other person there made the situation more stiff so we waited too long.. everyone sobered up, got tired, the vibe changed (it was the final of 2 nights) and she chose not to come up to our room with us. And I know she wasn’t just being a tease earlier. I think she may have even felt a bit rejected that we didn’t build into her advances while she was making them.

Ya live and ya learn, we are going to try to link back up with her but our schedules and locations make it tough. And we are both just sort of sitting with regret for being pansies and not aggressive enough lol, how do you shake that off and move on? My wife specifically has a hard time with rejection.