Our first orgy, while novel and hot in some ways, underwhelmed my partner and me. I thought āomg is this thing I watched in porn and fantasized about for years actually sort of mid in reality?'
Then Friday happened and my faith was restored. We got an invite to our first private party. We drove 2 hours in the pouring rain and booked a hotel for the night but it ended up being very worth it.
Iām not getting into sexy details but want to reflect on some elements that helped.
We had talked to almost everyone in the room prior to playing. This is somewhat unrealistic in most club situations but works at a smaller gathering. It made things feel natural and light. We tried to approach people we found cute and somehow it ended up that we all got in a room and played together. About 9-10 of us in total. In the room there was a sex chair that fit 2 and the rest of us were on the bed or on the floor. I like one bed for things since it felt like were all having sex as a unit instead in a large room in separate groups. It made it easier to watch and interact with each other too. Iām not bi but if a girl and I are next to each other both getting fucked, Iām turned on by some kissing and touching. Everyone was great with consent. Turns out I like watching pretty girls get railed next to me, who knew? There was also good sex music. Trap music and hip hop with heavy bass are perfect for umā¦ rhythm.
As for how my partner and I did, he took a chew of some sort. I dunno what it was but it worked really well. Eventually he had to ask me to stop because his cock wouldnāt. Yes I am still sore and yes it was worth it. loved being watched too. Some dude high fived me after we finished up because he was impressed by my skillsā¢ļø. And lots of people said my ass was amazing. My ass is the main character, deal with it.
And constructive elements:
- There was a large mirrored closet in the bedroom that showed the whole room. I love mirrors when Iām with my fiancĆ© but a mirror in this environment sort of threw me off. In that setting itās overwhelming with all the activity so itās easier for me to focus on one play situation at a time that turns me on instead of seeing it all at once.
- Keep track of your clothes! Stepping over people mid-coitus to find your thong is awkward.
- Water is your friend. Definitely have bottles on hand for everyone playing.
Overall the night was fantastic. So much so that the next day I had an emotional crash (hopefully this is normal?) and have been thinking about how hot it was for the past couple days. Itās so cool and fun to experience sex in this way. Truly canāt wait to have more experiences like this in the future.
You know what, I didnāt even notice smell and this is in all my past experiences. Iām guessing that meant everyone there had done the work to keep BO out of the equation or it didnāt phase me. Thatās a really good call out.
Some of the people involved were single men and they were extremely respectful and receptive to boundaries. I wasnāt touched by anyone (man or woman) without first being asked. It was a great crowd. Iām sorry you had to deal with people who werenāt as strict about consent.
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Itās not as interesting as you think. I know itās an ED type drug; that enough info for me. All I know is it allows him to fuck me longer and thatās all I need to know. Youāre assuming a lot.
I thought I had done enough contextualizing of that part of the story but Iāll go ahead and be more specific.
I still donāt know what exactly the chew is and Iām happy to ask, but it was something my fiancĆ© bought for himself to assist in staying hard throughout the play session. Of course, he knows exactly whatās in it and did a lot of research before selecting an ED aid In the past he has had issues staying hard (common in the lifestyle I think) so this was our first time using it in an orgy setting.
Keeping expectations low is key. Before this our last event together was a pre-Halloween party at our local club and it was underwhelming for a lot of reasons. Itās so so hard to not hope for the best when you rarely get chances to indulge due to time, distance, money, schedules etc. Iām trusting though that as long as we like sex and meeting new people things will work out sometimes, and this was one of those times š„³
Sure, it was extremely random though so bear with me.
We got an SLS account and paid for some months of premium in late July. Someone reached out to us inviting us to a Telegram chat. We joined it by sending her a video confirming our names, faces, and where we lived, sometime in early October. After we got added to a curated chat group for swingers in the greater California area. It was really overwhelming to be on Telegram and we didnāt know what to do but one night we decided we would scan the chat and DM some folks we found hot, this was early November. One of the couples we DMād didnāt want to play with us because our requirements didnāt align but still found us attractive so invited us to one of their upcoming house parties. So we got added to another chat group for that party and then made the drive to go this past Friday.
It was very random but Iām thankful for it. Since the party weāve been added to another chat by a couple there who we thought were really fun and the hosts want us to come to more of their events, obviously weād love to. I also included general time stamps that illustrates how long it took us to be able to network our way into sexy fun. Telegram is really great chat app to keep up with couples youāve met but you have to typically be invited and vetted before being included.
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Itās very useful in feeling comfortable around people. I didnāt include this but after we were done it was still early enough in the party that we went to eat and talk more to some of the participants we didnāt know as well. It was so easy to talk about ourselves and also remark "By the way, your boobs are fantastic." Good stuff.
I hope you both have a blast! See if you can get a chance to talk to any of the couples beforehand in a chat or something. It helped us get more excited on the day of!
Same! I hope everyone who wishes it gets to have a hot orgy. Itās so fun.
Thank you for verifying this! I really thought I had lost it or I was extra hormonal. What are things you do to ease through it?
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Weāve already been told about another event by the hosts early next year and are meeting up with one of the couples we played near in a few weeks. So fun!