So coming on here to decompress a little and vent my thoughts. Ideas and inputs are appreciated but not essential.

My wife and I are married since 2008 and have been playing for five and a half years.

Thus far we’ve always gone for soft swaps or just simple same room play. Over the last couple of months we’ve expanded to unprotected oral which was a first (wife is extremely risk averse and we go at her pace) so I got to go down on a woman outside of our marriage for the first time which was amazing (I love giving oral, she’s not a fan of receiving)

We’ve discussed full swap for a couple of years and after seeing STI tests form the couple we engaged in unprotected oral with decided to go for a full swap (with protection)

On the night my wife gave me ‘the nod’ to go for it with the lady we were with and I confirmed she should do the same with the man. He struggled to get hard enough to put on a condom (fair enough, I struggle with the same even with Sildenafil in some group situations) but she insisted I fuck the wife. She carried on blowing the guy quite happily.

The lady and I slipped to the side and went for it. After a little confusion on who made the choice on positions and the like we went for it. Fairly vanilla.

A few days on and I’m a bit confused on how I feel. This was my first full swap and it was…ok. The lady is a definite freak in bed and enjoy playing with her but there sex was purely ok.

I think a few things played into this: Lack of emotional connection My wife not managing to have her first full swap too

Anyway not sure what I’m asking or saying but wanted to throw some thoughts out for others to read.