Thank you all so much for your help with this issue! With all of your comments he couldn’t gaslight his way out! I have joined some subreddits on bisexuality and straight-bi couples. I will be looking for therapy for me, him and us. We’re putting the brakes on the lifestyle for the time being. In addition to what happened at Hedo, we also have a kid graduating high school in the spring and have all that to contend with—looking at colleges, filling out financial aid forms, etc and I just don’t have the mental bandwidth to deal with finding and meeting up with people right now.

I also made it crystal clear that since we’re back home any contacting and meeting up with play partners separately without my knowledge and consent is CHEATING. I looked through his phone and I told him I reserve the right to do so randomly. I already have an Air Tag in one car and will put one in the other.

Re Hedo 2024, we have until the last payment to cancel less the per person $125 cancel fee. The last payment is in the spring, so the decision about Hedo 2024 doesn’t need to be made today.

Thanks again for all your help and support!