My gf and I have been having FMF threesomes for a few years now, and weâve peripherally come into contact with people who say theyâre âin the lifestyleâ. We are very intrigued by doing LS events, but wonder if we should really be going to LS events (eg Bliss cruise or Hedonism II) if weâre only looking for girls to have sex with. Just for background, we have âpushed our limitsâ with her doing things with guys, and we have come to the decision that NEITHER of us is ok with her doing anything other than making out with another guy. Itâs even a LITTLE uncomfortable (though weâll still do it here and there) when weâre fcking another guyâs girlfriend/wife with him only watching, or him only fcking his wife with us. (Also, I apologize if Iâm not using the proper terminology, I donât quite know it all yet).
Anyway, our questions are: (1) is it ok to go to LS events and only try to have FMF threesomes, and (2) how do we best go about finding girls without having to swap at LS events?
You can set what ever boundaries youâre comfortable with, but youâll likely get tagged as unicorn hunters
Not afraid of another dickâMY GIRLFRIEND doesnât want to fuck other guys, either. Not that itâs any of your business, but sheâs been through some trauma with other guys. And at this point, she just doesnât like the shitty emotions that come with some random dude sheâs just met jackhammering away at her.
Ty, thatâs very supportive, and we really appreciate it! And yes, FFFM is very cool, too âşď¸
I donât suppose you have any suggestions on meeting girls? We have tried the two main apps we know of, but like I said, lots of wasting time chatting w/o meeting up, or catfishing, or whatever. We have done FMF a few dozen times with friends and acquaintances but looking for ideas on how to meet new people
Not trying to poach, thatâs why I asked. SoâŚbasically everyone in the LS is a couple? No single females (unicorns) allowed? Bc thatâs really what weâre looking for.
I think there are a lot of couples where the girl only wants to play with other girls. I didnât realize our preferences were so offensive, and I didnât realize the LS community was so restrictive (âonly swingers if you both want to swapâ). Thatâs truly disappointing bc we are very envious of all of the solidarity there is in the LS communityâspecific meetups and parties, special cruises, special vacation destinations, etc. We have yet to find anything CLOSE to something like a âunicorn and unicorn huntersâ community. Apps are full of catfish, and last I checked escorts were illegal , not to mention it comes with the intrinsic embarrassment of âcanât get someone without paying for themââŚwhich is especially frustrating to my girlfriend and I bc we both were nerdy kids in HS who have become very attractive in our 20s/30s. We both cleaned up as single people before we met each other, and we donât want the party to end completely, we just really didnât like it the few times we tried swapping. We didnât want to offend or frustrate anyone accidentally at a LS event without knowing all the ârulesâ, which is why I posted here first. But that truly sucks that if we were to spend a lot of money going to Hedonism, we might be shunned when we say we donât want another guy to f*ck my girlfriend. đ
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