My wife and I have been in the LS for a couple years, and have had a handful of full swaps & threesomes (MFM & FMF) under our belts at this point.

We’re beginning to realize that threesomes are MUCH easier and the sex seems to almost always be better than the full swap scenarios, wherein one of us seems to have a better experience than the other (nearly ALWAYS).

For additional context, we’re same room because we ENJOY watching each other, and in full swaps .. unless we’re a pile of bodies (which can be fun, not saying it isn’t) .. it’s still much more a 1-1 scenario as we pair off.

Do any other full swap couples run into this? Have we just not connected with the right couple who vibes perfectly with our dynamic? 1-1 AND 2-2 ? … aka that elusive 4-way chemistry we all chase.

We’re amid the “drop” after a large Halloween party play session in which one of us, yet again, had merely an “ok” experience with a couple whom we thought were going to be a great fit .. so just trying to make sense of things a bit as we question why we’re trying so hard.

Thanks for the perspective as always!