My partner and I are having trouble finding people we click with. We went to a party at a resort and met up with some couples we chatted with online.

From the second we met them, the guy would not stop touching me. His friend was whispering to him and said “She looks tight af, you need to f**ck her dude.” He was rubbing my arms and back, my partner noticed how uncomfortable I was. We were trying to get to know them and they clearly were focused on just going to the room to have sec. So we said, “We are going to get a drink at the bar!” And then the guys said to me, “can I get a kiss before you leave?” I said I am sorry I am not interested in doing that right now!

We had maybe a five minute conversation. I could tell he was on Ecstasy. A slight turn off for me on first meeting. I have nothing against party drugs but I think if you know in advanced you are meeting a couple you shouldn’t be under then influence. But it wasn’t really the drugs that bothered me, it was the fact they didn’t care to “meet” us before getting touchy and talking about going to the bedroom.

Our profile clearly states we like to meet first before diving into things. Online, we made that clear too. We also made it clear that I am not comfortable kissing others (it’s a weird sensory thing for me, it takes me alittle while to get warmed up to kissing others)

Am I just a prude? How much more clear can I make it that we don’t fuck on the first meet? I thought I’ve been vocal and clear about it but we keeping running into this issue.