My wife and I have done both and we have finally come to the conclusion that there is just too much freaky shit goes on in the same room play with other couples. It’s distracting and gets downright strange at times. You have that one guy who wants to direct everything, like how to fuck his wife. You you have another guy who is jealous of how you are fucking his wife! The last couple of times we played with couples, the other husband was not able to get it up and perform so my wife didn’t get any, while I was able to fuck the other wife. I think we are done with same room play. Funny thing is, the first couple we ever played with, we played with them in separate rooms. We still see this couple. We have played with them three times and we will be seeing them again this next weekend. The four-way connection is so hard to make and made harder still when you are all trying to play on the same bed in the same room. I’m sure it works out for some couples but for us it just has been a disaster.