Hello all. Mr here. Firstly I’d like to say that myself and my fiancée have a solid relationship based on trust, transparency and communication. We have been visiting a local club for a few month. Tonight will be our 4th time at the same Club. Up until now we have only played together in front of other couples. We have met two couples at the club who we click with and who are on the same level. We have arranged to meet them tonight at the club. My fiancée is bi and was part of the lifestyle for quite a number of years in a previous relationship. We have discussed at lengths our boundaries etc. We are aware that once you’ve done something with another person you can’t take it back so we are taking things slow.

We have made this clear to the couples we are meeting. We feel a soft swap is the safer option because ultimately I’m not going to know how I feel until I experience my fiancée with another man. Seeing her with another woman doesn’t bother me. Or at least not at the moment. We have both said that throughout any experience we will communicate and if either of us feel uncomfortable we must say and then stop. I think we have everything covered and are proceeding on the right basis. Just wanted to reach out and ask for any advice, suggestions on how to navigate this first time experience.

Thanks in advance.