Hi all. Happy Tuesday! I have a question for the guys and the gals. A little background: my wife and I are college sweethearts who started exploring swinging maybe 6 months ago after 14 years of monogamy. So far it has been amazing, but Im realizing, due to both my lack of dating experience AND my years of moving through the world with a vanilla mindset, that I often miss cues that a woman specifically in the swinger world is sexually into me. Very often my wife and I will meet a like minded couple for drinks and my wife will say “oh she was so into you” and I say “really? I thought she was just being friendly”. My wife is almost always right (no surprise there). Still, Id like to get better at recognizing when a woman, SPECIFICALLY in this space of ENM/Swinging, may be saying, subtly or no “Im into it”.

Maybe this question seems silly, but Im guessing a lot of guys know what I mean. I move through the vanilla world never knowing sexual interest from general friendliness and for years it didn’t matter as my wife and I were monogamous. But Id like to learn and grow in this area as part of my journey, so please, if you have any thoughts, long or short, seemingly small or seemingly grandiose, Id appreciate you sharing them. Thanks in advance and have fun out there :)

Im looking for tips.