We (GF and I) have just had our first (kind of) swinger experience in Berlin! A short story about our first experience, it is a bit rambly but it is nice to get it of my chest as I am so excited!

On our interrail trip we visited Berlin last weekend, of course known for its vibrant night life scene. My girlfriend (25) and I (26) have been together for 6 years and to be fair our sex life has been quite stale.” after moving in together last yesr. A good friend of ours recommended that we visit the Kit Kat club in Berlin and said that it would be a fun and mind opening experience. For those unaware, the Kit Kat club is a LGBTQI friendly fetish/sex dance club in Berlin. To be fair, we didn’t really know what to expect except that she said that we’d be looking our eyes out 👀. She had also told us that it was the club where she and her boyfriend had sex on a podium which for us was hard to imagine not knowing what kind of club it was hahah.

So queue last friday, where my gf and I said fuck it, let’s go! We asked our friend what to wear because we found out that there were certain dress codes that you had to adhere to because otherwise you would be denied access. The dresscode was fetish, sporty, colorful, kinky, sexy, creative, costumes. As we had packed as lightly as possible as we are backpacking, we had to improvise a bit and we bought tight running shorts for me and she would just wear black lingerie and a short tight top without a bra.

As we got to the club, we saw that the queue was quite long and we saw quite a few people getting denied so we were a bit nervous whether the outfits would be approved. Everyone in the queue wasn’t even dressed that extravagantly, however as people approached the bouncer they removed some of their clothes and revealed some of their sexy outfit. After we got checked by the bouncer we were fortunately admitted to the club.

Entrance was quite expensive (€18 p.p.) but anyway we got in! It was crazy because as soon as we got in people removed all their clothing and were just left in lingerie, BDSM suits (is that even how you call it?) or sometimes just a string or tape over their body. It was amazing to see so many people in such outfits and we both enjoyed it so much albeit us being dressed a bit vanilla hahaha

As it’s Berlin, a lot of people were on xtc / mdma. Unfortunately we didn’t have anything and were sober for most of the night as drinks were quite expensive. Overall the vibe was super laid back and we spoke to lots of people just about what brought them to Berlin. There was also a pool where we stayed for the majority of the time as it was quite difficult to really get into the techno music sober.

Anyway in the pool most people were skinnydipping and some people were having sex besides the pool. For me it was the first time watching other people having sex and it was so hot! We were watching together and both agreed that it was so hot to watch other people in a setting like this where it all seemed so casual so to say.

Eventually we both also got really horny and found a bit more of a quiet place although it still was very much visible and we started making out heavily. My girlfriend came from just me rubbing her bare nipples and grinding on me and afterwards she gave me a blowjob with her ass facing the people walking by. It was so fucking hot to us that other people were just watching hahah. For me it has always been a huge fantasy but we never got around to doing something like this. The idea of “sharing” my girlfriend is such a turn on for me 😩

Afterwards we talked a bit about what we liked about the experience and we concluded that it is mostly the “anything goes” atmosphere that was there and that (unlike in regular dance clubs) there were no inappropriate approaches by anyone at all. Of course it helps that most people are on drugs rather than drunk. We did think that it might be more fun if you go with another couple as sometimes it is a bit difficult to engage with other people but maybe it was also because we were both sober and other people were not.

Fun thing is that when we met up with a friend the day after she mentioned that she was dying to try it out as well. So who knows what the future might bring! Maybe for now the exhibitionist / voyeur part of the club is enough and from there on we’ll just see where the ship strands.💗