I’m asking this for a gf who is not on this site. I’ ll call her Kay and her boyfriend Chris. They met through a swingers site and he would only communicate via the site message system or kik for months.

She was coming home from a vacation and Chris was supposed to pick her up at the airport but she didn’t have his cell number. She tried the kik message but wasn’t sure he was watching for her message. He did find her and picked her up. It was stressful for her not knowing if she should depend on him or call an Uber.

Now she lays down the law and says I need your cell number and we need to be more honest. He tells her his name isn’t really Chris, it’s Bob and he hadn’t taken her back to his place because he lives with his parents to help out with a sister who has a disability. Up until this point they go to Kay’s office to have sex.

Now it’s been a year and he is very jealous. Tells her he only wants to be with her, he actually asked her to marry him. She said no. Kay is a swinger, single professional dr. Owns her own practice and has a nice home. Several of her older children still live at home. Bob works for FedEx, has never been married and has found women through swingers site to have sex with but never considered himself a swinger.

He has gone to parties with Kay and gets totally pissed off when guys touch her ass in a friendly hello kind of way, and god forbid she talks to anyone else while he goes to the bathroom. He just wants her to be his and him to be hers.

The sex is totally hot and they have that chemistry that is hard to deny. Is that enough to stay with him?

She’s also recently connected with an old friend from High School who lost his wife. They have always had a little crush on each other. He is age appropriate for her and has his life in order. (I think she would be fine to leave swinging for this man) Kay and Bob are always fighting over how she is always getting “hit on” but really it’s just her being friendly to people.

What do you all think about this situation? I have told her to break it off with Bob and she did for a week but he begged her to take him back after a week of no communication. Again they are arguing because she talked to a stranger at a festival while he was in the rest room.