My husband and I (both 44) know we will need a handful of signals/words/gestures to communicate with each other when we jump into the LS (hitting our first club soon!).

I’m curious what tricks other couples use to communicate.

Here are the areas that I think we’ll want signals/words to help us understand the other’s current state of mind: * to show when one of us is uncomfortable * to indicate we’re okay with the current situation * when we’re okay with accepting an invitation/trying something that’s suggested * something to check in on my partner and inquire about his current comfort level * definitely a clear signal to indicate we need to stop the current situation/leave the club

This feels like a lot, so may get confusing, but I definitely want to not try and guess what’s going through my partner’s head. Seems like that could lead to disaster.

Maybe I’m underestimating the amount of opportunity we’ll have to actually talk about things while we’re there. But signals/words seem like an easy lift for any environment. Maybe we reduce my list to only handle “get me out of this situation” and “can we have a quick chat to touch base?”

What signals do you all have? Do you use words, hand gestures, something else? Does this become less of a need the longer you’ve been in the LS?