Me and my GF are over 3 years together, we love each other so much and understand each other feelings and needs very well. There was never cheating, there was not even a situation where one might cheat on other (I'm saying it just so you know that need to sleep with another person is reason to try this). Anyway, we talked about it and agreed that we would like to go in swinger club to see what it feels like, what to expect there, etc...My GF is very young and incredibly hot and since I am yet not ready to see her have sex with someone else, I am literally dying to see have have at least some action with someone else (maybe kissing or hand stuff or even oral). Of course we would also set up some rules which must not been broken. Can you give some advices, how to start, where to start, what to avoid, what to do, what not to. Every comment will be appreciated!
Be prepared to struggle to find partners. You have a few things working against you:
- You don’t want to swap. That’s the basis of swinging and probably the biggest strike against you. But look into parallel play or soft swapping. That might be more your jam.
- She’s very young. The average swinger is probably 45-ish and not many want to fuck someone they could have birthed. Our hard line is 25, but we prefer mid-30s to 40.
- You’re not married. This isn’t a huge deal for everyone, but most of our swinging friends (us included) tend to avoid couples that aren’t married. Your dynamic is very different from ours. You technically have no real skin in the game.
That said, be patient and don’t settle. I hope you find what you’re looking for.
EDIT: how old is she? If she’s not at least 21, you won’t be able to get into a swingers club.
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