My wife and I (both in our 40's, married for 20 years, 3 kids) have been fantasized about swinging for years. Every time we have sex we talk about me watching her with another guy, her going out for the night with another guy or woman, MFM, and MFMF. Her favorite type of porn is cuckold. We just never pulled the trigger on actually doing it because life always seems to get in a way. However maybe with a little planning me and her can attend a sex club or swingers club and just take things slow. Maybe just go and watch and see how it makes us feel maybe screw around with just each other in front of other people and see how that makes us feel. We both definitely don't want to move on from this fantasy without at least addressing it in some way. Does anyone have any recommendations in New Jersey?