My partner 28 (F) and I (M) 32 have been in the lifestyle for about 1 year. We have a unicorn (F) 32 who we play with as and when we can and she was our first and only play partner to date.
We have another meet in the pipe line with a new unicorn, she seems very intelligent and interesting, we are attracted to her but she is 19.
I am aware this is of legal age but is this frowned upon?
Bare in mind that before she told us her age she certainly acts like a person in her 30s
We will be her first experience in a threesome dynamic, which is fine, we are a nice down to earth couple who will let her explore without any pressure whatsoever so I have no worries with that.
Im just wanting some feed back from others on if you would deem this acceptable
Tia
Iâd personally keep my distance from a 19 year old. Itâs just far too young for me. But thatâs me. But you should request to see her ID in person. Verify her age before any play.
I also worked within the mental health field, and the phrase is over sexualized because itâs used by rapists wanting to manipulate very young people or even children into thinking theyâre mature enough for a sexual relationship. Donât down play it.
I see it as a massive red flag that sheâs using that term herself. Itâs something predators frequently say and the fact that sheâs using it is heartbreaking.
But also keep in mind how hard teenagers work to make themselves seem more experienced, smarter, stronger, happier than they are.
Check in with her and stress that she can always say no and can back out at any time.
Be careful and hopefully you all can have fun.
Agree. Not sure why they even posted this because based on their comments they are going to go through with it no matter what others say.
What canât you find someone closer to your age? Think about where you are in your lives. She just stopped having gym class like a year ago and you probably have a mortgage and might be family planning.
She is not maturing enough for any kind of sexual or romantic relationship with someone that much older than her.
The argument âsheâs legalâ makes it worse. So what is your cut off? If 17 or 16 were legal would you be okay with that?
Reading through their responses to comments is getting concerning. The husband came here asking if she was too young. A lot of people here have stated quite clearly why she is, but they keep saying they want to fuck her to save her from the other evil couples sheâs talking to.
Itâs getting real gross and she wonders why people are getting âsaltyâ.
Maybe donât say that youâve introduced a ton of girls to the lifestyle. Stick with âyoung womenâ so stay away from the ick factor.
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Iâd stay away from the phrase âmature for her ageâ. Itâs a little predatory. I know you donât mean it that way (and youâre a man which means youâve probably never had a creepy old man say this to you), but itâs one of those phrases that just make a lot of women cringe.
That said, youâre gonna want to tread carefully with her. Sheâs a brand new adult which means she might struggle with feelings for you or your wife. Sex does that to people, and the younger, the less sure of what they want. Keep those boundaries in place and make sure everyone is communicating and comfortable at all times.