Gf/Bf couple in our early fifties. I have dipped my toes in swinging in the past over 30 yrs ago with a former partner. It was a fun experience but limited to one full swap but many no swap sessions with the couple. I still think about those experiences and I would like to relive my youth.

I have a gf for over a year now. We both have a very high libido and our sexual relationship is a major connection for us. She has admitted to having a couple of experiences before we met including a mfm and ffm where she was the unicorn for another married couple. She says she did it in the past because she was very drunk. I believe she has a high body count but I don’t judge and always prefer my women to be on the slutty side of the bell curve. She has strong desires to experience dp. I bring up swinging and dp during sex sometimes when we have been drinking and she gets super wet. So I know it turns her on. I’d like to pursue and expand these type activities with her and would love to eventually find another couple to eventually full swap. Personally I am not interested in a mfm unless their was another female was involved.

I’ve mentioned to her my thoughts about all forms of swinging from no swap, soft and full swap and I get resistance from her. I’ve told her about all my swinging past and swinging and hot wife fantasies.

She wants to get married. I am reluctant at my age after a long marriage failed and don’t want to be divorced a second time and see no reason to get the label. She thinks I will think differently about her after the fact and she has brought up in the past that I am now divorced as some kind of proof. I tell her my former marriage lasted 25 yrs after the swing experience and that swinging had nothing to do with it. She then says she doesn’t want to be pressured into it. She also is more accepting of a threesome with another male and says she might have jealousy issues if another woman touched me.

Approx 6 months ago we went on a cruise and she met another lady at a pool bar and she told me that the lady brought up the topic of swinging and stated her man was very interested and my gf admitted the same about me. As far as I know that’s as far as the conversation went. After my gf relayed the story to me I asked her if she was interested in possibly playing with them. She told me the others ladies husband wasn’t attractive to her. So I took that as a yes if the other dude had been attractive enough. After the conversation and during the cruise i brought up some sexy talk during sex and told her I’d love for us to be invited to another couples cabin to relax on the balcony with them. Of course a naughty time ensued. She was very turned on by the fantasy, as was I.

I’d like some suggestions as to how navigate from here. I’ve stopped talking about it when she brought up not wanting to be pressured into it. I feel like she would possibly be interested in it under certain conditions in the random wild. But I would like to increase our odds with out manipulating her or pushing her away. Any suggestions? Thanks in advance.