Recently, I got a private message from a member of a couple that we were planning to play with. Initially it seemed innocuous but then they started saying their partner was out of town and I based on the rest of their messages it was clear they m assuming wanted to initiate sexting, but why privately? Why not in the group chat we made with the other couple? We said up front it was to keep everything “in the open” and equitable. If anything I think it might have been interesting to explore the idea of group-sexting like that had it been within the boundaries we defined.

To us, what’s the point in swinging together if we are just going to play separately? I know that’s some other’s style. it’s just not ours.