We were with a couple recently who checked all the boxes for both of us. After a less-than-ideal first experience, this one knocked it out of the park for me. The guy was exactly what I wanted and the feeling was mutual.

It felt really passionate and I felt much more connected to the guy than expected. The way he spoke to me felt more "passionate/romantic" vs animalistic sex like. My husband also had a great time overall with the wife and we plan to see them again (fingers crossed).

I guess where I get confused, as a passionate person who values connection with others, is...is swinging supposed to feel like just fucking? Or is feeling like "I really like this person, and this is really passionate" normal? I don't know if I'm letting myself get too into it. Or maybe that's okay? My husband and I both are certain we want more FWB relationships, or repeated play, vs random one time encounters. So I don't know if that is how I should feel or if I'm someone who needs to be careful with how connected I get.

I am someone who develops deep relationships. Like even with platonic friends, I love them and want deep, sister-like friendships. So this may just be how I operate.