My girlfriend and I met in polyamourous spaces after both practicing separately, but fell back into monogamy when we moved in together. We've discovered that playing separately is better for us. I'm experienced joining couples but feel like my performance really suffers. I'm also feeling like repeated one time things don't bring what I need as much as ongoing casual situations. Does anyone casually date guys outside their long-term relationship?? I think I had alot of luck joining couples because I brought a better energy than most, it just feels off for me personally and guys are so thirsty that the opportunity is gone as soon as it's posted, if at all. I don't have the energy or will to dig and see whoswinging locally, anymore, and from what I've seen in my area, my more mature picker doesn't like my choices.