I’m curious, for you couples that are a bit more experienced in the swinging lifecycle, how much does your level of comfort with the same-sex half of the other couple impact whether or not you play with them? I should clarify that I’m strictly asking about situations where bisexual, same-sex play is not a factor.

The reason I ask is that my husband and I just had our first shared experience with another couple last weekend, and I guess it went well overall, but afterward I just cannot stand the female half of the other couple anymore. We all got along great all night, but once things turned sexual, she seemed to turn into a whole different person, and I was simply annoyed the whole time.

My husband is really into her and enjoyed the whole experience, and I’m definitely into the other guy. Given how hard it was to find a couple that we were both attracted to in the first place, part of me feels like I should let it go, but the other part of me knows I’ll always be annoyed by her every time we see them.

Has anybody else dealt with this? I’m guessing maybe it’s more common than I think?