We (29 MF) are set to have our first play session with a couple tomorrow and wife poaching is something I (F) want to avoid. What are the ways we can make sure play is initiated and continues with both me and my partner (M) involved? I should note the girl in the other couple is bisexual and definitely will want to play with me which I’m cool with, but I want to ensure it doesn’t turn into me having all the fun. My partner is more reserved so I think tips for him to be assertive if necessary would be helpful too! We are soft swap and parallel play for now so I was hoping it would be easy to keep things equal but now I’m scared.

Thanks!