So a bit of background first:

Wife (F30) and I (M31) have been in the LS about 2 years now. Weve been to Temptation a few times, occasionally attend our local club and have used LS apps like Feeld to find other people for dates etc.

Both of us are in professional fields, wife is in Healthcare and I work the City. We've never really cared too much about having pictures with our faces in them, since the pics on our profiles are super tame and just give people an idea of what we both look like, face and full body pictures (clothed). We never share nudes with faces in them, and don't sens nudes until we meet in person to verify the people.

It's been great, but recently my sister's friend joined one of the apps with her partner (we had no idea they were in the ls) and saw our profile. She immediately told my sister and it become super awkward. She hasn't told anyone and said she will keep it to herself, but advised us to be more careful. We got lucky, that could have been someone who would spread our personal lives everywhere.

We tell most of our friends we're swingers, but our families absolutely don't know and we want to keep it that way.

We took down our profiles on the apps, and figured we'd just meet people at the club going forward. We did, however, have a conversation about rejoinjng Feeld and maybe creating new profiles with pics that don't have our faces in them for discretionary purposes.

For people who take this approach, how much success have you had on the apps? Feeld for us prior to this was our most successful app for meeting people.