So my wife and I finally opened up and shared some of our desires and one of my big ones was sharing her with another man. We are newbies so this was a big step for a request. Fast forward a couple months and I find a really good friend of mine was into the same stuff i was so i talked to him about doing a threesome with my wife, he was excited and she was excited and we booked the trip to make it happen two months in advance. So a month away from our trip we notice the steam went away on the texting and we start feeling some of the wierd emotions of feeling rejected etc. although not valid because we all have busy lives, nonetheless it was getting in our heads. In this process we started looking into other options via apps and found a super cool couple that we really like. The issue is my wife always said she didnt think she would want me with another girl (which is fine due to the fact that my kink is showing her off and spoiling her) we talked to the couple quite a bit and i started talking dirty to the wife, my wife struggled with the first few but it got way better. We set up a time to meet and possibly play and they tell us they only want to play seperate. I thought i could deal with this but the emotions hit me like a wall the past few days. My wife in this process agrees that seperate play is better because she doesnt really want to see me with another woman. So now im the odd man out from the couple and my wife. I dont get to be close to my wife whom i ultimately want to do stuff with and i have to go in another room with the other wife and have sex with the thought that my wife may have negative feelings that are being suppressed by seperating and trying to avoid. Is this a red flag? Am i getting too caught up in details? My wife and i are very close and open, my approach is if there is any possible issues for my wife that could come out with me being with another woman i dont think its a good approach and im fine with that since i am fine doing mfm and making her the center of attention. I just dont feel like its healthy unless my wife would almost want to see it. I really want to be near my wife. Thanks in advance for the help everyone, just need to know some different opinions!